My choice of a lifetime partner … part 3
First of all i would like to really really sincerely thank all of you for looking up to me —– on my choice of guys ~! Aiyoh , you thought im the goddess ah ? Come on la guys , being single for half a year doesnt mean that im picky or im a lesbian lah aDui ~! There’s few things i would like to verify to all u guys , not just me , but for a favour of alot of girls out there …. take this ( hAIyAhh ~! wATchAa ~! )
Example 1 : If being a beautiful person = she cant possibly be single = has a lot of choices n leng zais to choose , then i ask u guys a question . If u are thinking this way , There’s NEVER the existing of ANY ELIGIBLE BACHELOR Then ~! Coz if a guy is good looking = he cant possibly be single = he has alot of chicks to choose = pretty girls will always be single ? OR do u mean that all the beautiful people are taken by beautiful people n this world will be left with only ugly people ? Is that what u guys meant ?
Now , What’s the ACTUAL defination of BEAUTIFUL then ? good looking ? if tats ur answer then i bet u’re a total gone case mAn ~! Doink , Cockcoo Cockcoo ~! See ?? Being a Beautiful Person is like a special package , formed by inner beauty blending with outer beauty + good attitude . Will u go out with someone as good looking as an angel but she’s behaving like a baboon ? No right ? SO ? STill duwanna give up ? Ok , Next …
Example 2 : Pretty girls always go for richer guys … i shall start with ermm … hansome guys is all useless people who doesnt know how to work n only know how to get money from rich girls ? See ? Treat us fairly will ya ? We girls are not crippled lah , we have hands n legs n brains lah come on , we know how to earn ourselves a living lah . Not to say we dont need u guys , but then since if u put it this way , i’ll put it this way loh . Turn it backward , if u’re a good looking guy , ppl always catagories u as a person who would probably choose a sugarmummy , how would u feel ? That’s what we girls felt when u guys ask that . And to be frank lah darlings , we girls can earn easy money 100 times more than u guys can lah . That’s y girls model are more than guys , see ? But we never act cocky coz we understand the Yin n Yang of life . Guys are always the one who got promoted to be on highier ground , but it doesnt mean that a girl cant be at a position a guy can be . Are we clear now ? Never look down on us , coz we girls never look down on u guys . If u still think guys control everything n girls shut up , then pack urself up today n shift to live …… with your mum ~!
Example 3 : Pretty girls always think they’re so good that they have so many boyfriends at a time coz they are all playgirls who dont scare to lose a guy coz they have many n they will never be loyal to their guys …. I wanna tell u what i’ve seen in my life . Pretty girls tend to be more loyal to their love ones than the normal ones , believe it or not . People are always not what they look or seemed to be dear . We are not playgirls . And i believe u guys will agree on not every hansome guys are playboy , right ? If a pretty girl end her relationship with u , u blame ALL on her .
Why dont u check whether u’d did this … 1st - u always nag n complain ‘ i know u r pretty , if u leave me today , i know u had loads of better guys out there waiting for u ‘ … 2nd ‘ I have had enough , u dont think u can always do things your way , im not the best choice u have , but i have my honour too ‘ …. 3rd ‘ Where r u now ? wHAt ? with wHo wAh ? Angel ? Which Angel ? Really ? (the guy suddenly quiet quiet wanna listen whether there’s any funny noise going on on the girls side) What time will u be home ? And why r u going out so much these days ? … 4th ‘ Girl , u’d changed , u r not the person i know anymore , eversince u got all the attentions n the modeling jobs n ur unfinished messages n praises from people all over , i rather u being the person i know when we just started , simple and normal ‘ … 5th ‘ I know im nothing compared to those rich guys n models who’re head over heels over u ….. *then the guy cry* ‘
Actually sometimes , things doesnt need to end the way u thought it’ll ended . We never change , it’s U ~! Its all n always about U ~! Yes , dont blink , it’s YOU GUYS ~! We are girls , understand this . Do u wish your girl to be uglier n uglier until ur mum ask u what u did to ur girl ? Or do u wish to see ur girl turning into someone better ? My advise , dont always nag ur love ones no matter girl or guy anything alike those examples i list out above . It’s totally sickening u know ? Not sometimes but all the time , SICKENING ~! U dont like the change then get lost ~! Get not a better one , but go get the worst one instead , so that they will NEVER turn into someone better no matter how long u guys go together , happy ? Use your brain n think , how would we feel if our love ones always say harsh things like that ? I duno bout u guys but i felt insulted , hurt n down .
If becoming a better person means that we’ll leave our love ones soon , then they’ll never SUCCESSFULL people in this world coz they are too afraid to lose their lover by being a better person . see ? If u love them , u should support them feel happy for them . Think this way , they are happy + better now with u around , u r their savior ~! U r a hero ~! YEah ~! U’ll feel better …. n they , too , will feel very very much better , better than all the projects n jobs n opportunities that they have in hand , coz they have YOU …… Remember , if they love u , no matter how good they become , they still will love u . And too , no matter how wrong u turned to be , they’ll still love u ……. coz is THEM , who chose YOU . Not YOU , who chose THEM . Remember that ~! If turning into a better person motivates u to leave ur love ones , howabout ur love ones leave u for that very same reason ?
No matter how good u are , there’s always a better person out there …… whether u wanna admit it or not . But when we HAD already PICK a special one out of so many people , we stick to them . If not , why are they saying that Love is Selfish . Who would wanna be shared or compared ? Who wouldnt want someone to love them , and to be treated special ? bla bla bla unfinished touching things n so on …. dut dut dut … What i wanna state is that NEVER , NEVER EVER tell your love ones that there’s always a better person out there lah , i know u’ll leave me one day lah , i know im not good enough lah n stuff like that . All u need to do is to ask urself back a question before u even wanna start asking them that ‘ why she/he pick u out of so many people ? why is he/she still with u but not others now ? why is she/he still the one who make u smile , n smile back at u at the same time ? Why ? Why ? And why do u still care so much for him ? ‘
If there’s any point of time when u r free , dont start SOMETHING STUPID to argue about , why dont u use ur talent on thinking or some surprises or arrange some nice comfy dinner for both of u ? Or make him a cup of tea ? Arrange a facial for him ? Any idea of anything nice ?
Please , CHERISH ~! It’s a very simple word , yet, hard to really study n understand the true meaning of that . Cherish the moment , every single second , be thankful that WE are still the one they love , WE are still the one waking up beside them , that WE are still the one he calls , even if he cheat , remember , its not the end of the world , coz WE are still the one he’s afraid to face , WE are still the one they want to lie , coz WE are still the one he cant bear to let go . Coz if he dont love u no more , y would he lie ? He could just tell u this ‘ Hey , im busy right now . Please , would u please dont call me again . IM very bothered by YOU ~! *piak* he slams the phone ‘ See ? So , considered the sun is still shining bright , that the flower is still blooming , and that , he still loves u , for who u are .
If u ever thought that u had made a BIG MISTAKE , check this out , he made a bigger one ~ Everyone is NEVER perfect , but its possible to be perfect for someone , when that SOMEONE is in love with u … So , if u wanna be perfect , go get someone ~! Wahahahah ~!
Example 4 : Pretty girls always sleep around n very easy to get their number . Aiyoh come on lah , are u still what ? 4 years old ah ? Even a 5 years old kid can get Angelina Jolie’s number lah . Are u kidding me ? Beautiful people giving out their numbers to people doesnt mean their cheap lah , they’re just friendly . Or if u still wanna be so stubborn ok then , coz they have too many choice to choose who to go out with so they give their number around so that they can add them to their new collection loh , happy ? We are like everyone else in the world lah , if we are not allowed to give out numbers , then i tell u all the communication station will go bankrupt . And we will never had any chance to buy a handphone , so the handphone company also bankrupt . Then are u happy now ? If u think hansome guys n pretty girls always sleep around , think again . No ? Please , take ur own sweet time . Think again . I must agree that we DO , however have the chance 100 times highier than normal ppl , but still WE DONT DO THAT LA ~! There’s no report saying that ppl who suffer from sex dissease are mostly good looking people lah ~!
Example 5 : Pretty girls /PR girls / dance girls / models are dirty cheap . Talking about pretty PRs . Respect for them lah ~! Its a job also ,they didnt go n rob u guys lah . They didnt kill ppl n push ppl down the street , they didnt hurt ppl right ? They’re just entertaining YOU , without them , y u guys go to clubs ? Look at yourself ah ? STupid ~! Next time when u wanna point ur finger n laugh at pretty girls , laugh at urself first , u know y ? Cuz u have a mother at home who’s once a pretty girl before , n u’re their product . Funny ? Yes , i think u r pretty funny afterall , Haha ~!
Example 6 : Having a pretty girlfriend = having an expensive car …….. to be frank , My advise , ask TARZAN to intro u a jungle girl . Not everygirl is a big spender . But i must say that everygirl DOES spend . And a pretty girl spend more than a normal girl , tats for sure . Frankly speaking , if u r not capable of paying ur own bills , keep single will yah ? I duwanna see there’s another sugarmummy on the list man ~! If u cant cope with the speed , buy a kancil . Do i make myself clear now ? Im not saying that everygirl spend guys money , but what im trying to say is the fact that have u ever heard of going out everytime n the girl pays instead of boys ? Get it ? We girls , are capable to spend using our own money . We didnt force u to buy us diamonds n pearls , but if u guys dont buy , alot of business will go bankrupt ~! Again , im not trying to say that we spend ur hard earn money like running water from the tab , but im stating that come on lah , at least for special occasions lah ~! If like that also u dun agree , i think i’ll pray hard for u …. to get a girl who doesnt like presents ~! And hope god stand by ur side for that …
ATTENTION : Every girl n every guy in this world is pretty …… we are not good enough to catagories a person as UGLY . But what ashame is that people nowadays love to catagories that . For me , each n everyone of us have our own very special beauty …… its either from the bottom of our very own heart , or we go home n thank our parents for giving one pretty self . Cherish everything you have NOW , before its too late … But then remember , there’s never too late . Too late will happen only when ur body no longer stays with u , n ur soul tore apart with it …. tHat is , however , too late ……..
Love u always …………. truly …… leng yein
January 25th, 2006 at 5:24 am
Hmm..a very well written testaments with clear examples. But girl, I can understand that you’ve been thru a lot and now you’re trying to chase back the moments that you were deprived off whilst you were stuck in your 2 past relationship. I can sense that you’re now a very tough woman, a lil bit too tough actually..haha. Its good to know your directions in life and what you really want. But then, being too defensive is not a good attitude to yourself and the people that really care about you. Imagine how disheartening it is when someone suggests/tells/inform you about something that you might not wanna hear and you just shut them up by a simple phrase ‘I have my way of doing things, don’t mess with my life..bla..bla’. Little did you know, the person that cares just stop talking cuz he/she knows, whatever they say will be greeted negatively.Reality bites…as Chinese saying ‘Jung Yin Yik Yee’..Ouch..:)..Chill out girl, your loved one is not there to own your life, he/she just wanna share his/her views with you. So don’t go drop a bomb and kill both of you! hahah!
I agree that in a relationship, neither the man nor the woman should held each other ransom. Let me simplify it; NEVER NEVER have the thinking that I have many options and if you leave, there will be many other man/woman waiting in line to fill your place. IF such thoughts ever cross your mind, then this relationship is not sincere anymore..more like a business transaction of willing buying willing selling.
Changes are good, and to me changes are constant in everyones’ life. We, the man and the woman in the relationship is just a factor. Changes are something that we can only ADAPT to it rather than go against it. That’s why I put it in a way we are just a factor in it. Whether or not we make the best out of it depends entirely on us. Therefore, when others comment that I’ve changed I will carefully ponder if I really did and if it was to the better or worst. Then, I’ll see what were the factors that made me changed.Even when I’m typing this comment, my life more or less changes with time. Eg; Maybe my best friend thought of getting married, maybe I was called up to be a pilot, maybe I’m gonna have a brother soon, etc. You just won’t know it.
I won’t settle for anything less than perfect, albeit I’m not 99% a perfect guy myself. I won’t feel low self-estemn nor afraid that my gf will run away with other guy cuz shes sooo sooo soo beautiful. On the opposite, I would wanna be her #1 fan and support her of being a successful model. Neither will I stop her from pursuing her dreams nor have extreme control her cuz I know, if a person wanna leave, she will eventually leave for many reasons. You can lock a person in a room, you can own his/her physical body but you can NEVER NEVER own his/her heart if its no longer yours no matter what methods you use. Everyone expect their loved ones to know how to handle those unwanted calls and those who try to be lucky even if it means the need to be harsh. Cuz ppl nowadays have skin than can survive a nuclear war.
Love works both ways. If you wanna be understood, first seek to understand. Cheers Leng Yein, you’re the coolest!
love,
Your #1 fan..eternally
January 25th, 2006 at 10:26 am
well.. like i ‘ve told you before… just live your life and be happy. Do not be bothered by what other people think or say…
take care n all the best
February 9th, 2006 at 8:58 pm
Leng ,
I have read through ya blog as still many posted on it .In fact what you are saying is the actual facts of life.Everybody does feel the same as you been through this so call thing “LIFE”.Well friends for me is just for the temporary thing at the end of the day you yourself be the judge whether you have been through this life and if it is a fruitful one.The journey is very long ahead.What is advice is the world can make you unhappy but you yourself determines that you are happy and no one can take that away from you.All the best to you !