Leng Yein’s Blog

Hi beautiful people, it’s been 8 months since my last blog n here i am again, flashing back on my journey … Hmm … Let’s see what should i pick on … Well, Friendship then. So, this is dedicated to those who’ve been betrayed and hurt by your own friends …

You see, humans have two sides, the angel and the devil. We’re trying to balance by being sometimes an angel, at times a devil. And some of us who managed to sit aside and balance perfectly can sometimes play God, watching both sides playing the games by the rules.

I’ve learn my lessons, and i think that most of u had too. When something happened to a friendship, it’s like, there’s no half-singing in the shower, you’re either a rock star or an opera diva. You’ll either leave it and live ur normal life as though nothing happened, or you’ll be the all-or-nothing person and take back what they’ve took from u once and for all. Me ? I am both. It depends on what they did and how many times they repeat it. But no matter how hurtful u r, try not to let those feelings shatters ur life. Walk on, with other friends, your family, your loved ones …

Some of us, our weakness is that once our friends say sorry, we can pretend like nothing had happened in just one second after the apology. But don’t use it against us like some of u did. We know when u r sincere and when u r doing it again. Remember, we forgive u because we want to, not because u r that great in acting pathetically pitiful. And that’s a big difference. My advice for those dumbo’s are – never use the same trick twice. U r not that smart afterall. Ur brain n mine r as big , maybe mine a little smaller, but it works faster coz it’s lighter. Haha !

Most of the time, friendship wreckage starts from - ENVY. The few who do are the envy of the many who only watch. You may think that ur bestest friend r the one who always watch ur back, but u only think, u never thought. Dont put everything right in front of ur eyes and blur the whole situation. Flash back on the past, put think to thoughts. Some of them are just waiting n watching the best spot at ur back to strive n paralyse you. You have to agree that at times, friends around us are most vicious coz they know you more than any stranger does, some even know ur secrets and schedule more than ur own boyfriend or family do. Beware my friends, think twice before you want to pick up that phone call of urs and open the door for them. My advice, never let any friend knows ur schedule n have access to ur house and office anytime they want. Dont spoil ur friends. Choosing a friend is somewhat like choosing a companion. U have to decide at times whether it is worth it for the effort n things n trust that u’ve put in, in exchange for the trouble they may cause, the havoc n heartbroken moments.

Friendship is as good as a relationship. Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take. If u’ve given enough, more than enough pof some may think, stop. They may took alot of things from u without ur permission or knowing, but all they can probably take is just a small tiny part of you, which can be mended back almost immediately. No ? Think again. Humans r good in finding a way to live through crucial moments. And it’s just friendship, we haven’t go into topics about love n relationship yet. Hey, stay strong my friend, there will always be a better friend around you, alot of times, more than just one better friend. They’re always there, like a twinkle twinkle little star , always there but not seen, just yet, till u r down n empty … These , are what we call friends …

If any of u ever wonder how they can be so extremely cold blooded at times when u found out some truth, never ever think that all the betrayal that had happened is because of ur own fault. Hey, how many ppl actually point fingers at themselves before saying sorry n saying it’s their own fault. Everyone is selfish most of the time. If u know that u’ve done enough, leave them. Have ur own pride, why letting someone who’re not worth ur time start counting how good they are when all u hear from them u know damn well it is lie after lie. Never think that u r not good enough to be a friend my dear, ppl who don’t have friends wont spend their time login into Friendster n start having friends all over the world everyday eih ? U wont meet a friend today n lose a friend today too. The possibilities r 100 times higher to meet a new friends to losing a friend so don’t worry.

Always remember, never be afraid to leave a friend when they’re creating havoc in ur life. Someone once told me, no, alot of my darlings once twice n trice told me that they feel that everyone hates them..and they start crying. Hey, Hey , Hey, wait my dear , wait … I told them they’ve been ridiculous . It’s just coz EVERYONE hasn’t met u yet. I then ask them to login to Friendster more often, and they laugh. We r not that different… coz we’re only human… So if u r a Devil today, one day u will have someone playing a devil who come into ur life… and then u shall play angel … this is just like a karma ring, it goes around n around n around … never ends …

Live with integrity. Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe. If u want all ur friends to solely live for you, u’ll be much disappointed. No one will ever really live for you. Ask urself, if u only have 100 buck left and ur life’s at risks n stake, n u know that so does ur best fren has the same problem n finance like u. N then she comes ‘ Can u gimme 100 buck of yours, i lost my 100 buck. I have no money n i need the money.’ But u know that she still has it. Then u will start to do some thinking, if i confront her that i know she has that 100 buck n asked her why she lied, she’d say some things n things n things n the last phrase would be ‘ im sorry , i don’t wanna lie, but i have my own reason, please trust me ok?’ OK, fast forward another ending ‘ cry..cry..cry..You don’t trust me anymore. I really don’t have it. You don’t trust me, im so sad … cry… im so sad … cry… I trusted u with everything all the time … cry..cry…cry… And why on earth should i lie to you..cry…you r my best friend..cry…You are my best friend ( they will say at least two times) and there u go … stuttered. Dont know what to say. Then u’ll start to think, wanna catch them red handed or just pretend that u do not know that they have it in their pocket. Then now, to all my friends, if u r caught in this situation, before u pull out ur last 100 buck, or some even wont pull out at all, anyway, everyone, i want u to do some thinking here. Will u think twice before u pass them the 100 buck that u’re left with ? Then again, u’ll start to acknowledge the fact that if they want to survive, so do you. And u’ll start to fight back n think that they are indeed so selfish and all they could ever think of is at crucial times were themselves but not you, or perhaps, never you at all ? Back then, all the tears , the times, the ups n downs, the memories, whatever… Yes , i know , back then. You’ve said it. Not NOW. All the things that had happened back then, did they mean anything to u now ? Have u forgotten that there’s a future u’re fighting for ? And u’re fighting for urself, not for ur friends. Admit it. U can only help others when u r strong enough urself. But when u r strong enough, do u then, know that how many among ur friends want to see u drop right down again ? Such a world huh ! Well , this is life …

Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one. But it happens to alot of people everywhere around the world everyday. We should cherish but not abolish our own right of having our own life to live. Have a friend, have a heart, and u’ll have ur second friend … and it goes on…

Anger repressed can poison a relationship as surely as the cruelest word. But a friend will not be angry with you without letting u know the cause, why n when. If they wanna let go of their anger on you all the time, those ppl r not what we call a friend, they r computers. So digital that they’re programmed just to shout at u the second they see u. So just press the off button next time u see them will ya. Darling, always remember that u have to respect urself. Know how to love urself before loving others. N know how to handle ur life before letting more ppl into it. End result, u have a messed up life.

Friends are easy to get but hard to keep. U can just walk into a cafe or club and be friends with the cashier, waiter, DJs, everyone. But do u know how many times will u see them after that and so on, or how long the smile would last on ur pretty face ? No one knows. So make the best outta ur own day, heck em, they will be partying with other friends right after the wave goodbye. Hey, they aint bad ppl , u n me do the same thing. Admit it too.

Friendship. Hmm… The folks you help won’t remember it and the folks you hurt won’t ever forget it. The more u love that fragile friendship of urs, the more pieces u’ll find in that broken heart of urs. Well dear, this is life eih… i know it suck, but we need friends all the time. Yeah, we shit n we eat again. Heck it. C’est La Vie ! If friendship is a game, then you have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else …

A friendship or a relationship, I think, is like a shark, you know? It has to constantly move forward or it dies. And I think what we got on our hands is a dead shark. Haha ~ But why be sad , at least u can get a bowl or two of the shark fin’s soup. If u don’t like it but u don’t wanna end it, use it. Be frank, everyone needs everyone in this world. If someone says tat u r using them, tell them this ‘ ya , maybe a little less than you. But not as much as how u’ve used tom dick n harry’

Always remember that once backstabbing among ur friends started , CELEBRATE ! The only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about. Do u wanna be a history to be talked about ? Ur name would just popped out anytime among ur friends. Hey isn’t it cool ? History is merely gossip. And the art of gossip is beautiful. Coz after all the hours of hard work, it means barely nothing but when u look at it, it’s as though everything at that point of time. Cool eih !

Dont worry that when u r successful, u will not have any friend. If A equals success, then the formula is A equals X plus Y and Z, with X being work, Y play, and Z keeping your mouth shut. Be humble n down to earth. Be noble. Let the love flows in n out naturally. We do not need to find for friends, we bump into them everywhere. Trough on lines, off lines, phone lines, queuing in lines… everywhere… all the time. Just be yourself, and u can keep a true friend for a longer time, and extended longer… and longer… and longer. If u start faking urself, after sometimes ppl will get suspicious of all ur moves, ur motives, ur stories , ur life, n there goes byebye for ur friendship.

I don’t at all like knowing what people say of me behind my back. It makes me far too conceited. Haha ~ Im a vain girl. It is perfectly monstrous the way people go about nowadays saying things against one, behind one’s back, that are absolutely and entirely true, but u cant deny that they are purpose-driven intentions too. Heck it babe, why explain urself when u know that it is useless against those ppl. I ask u, how many ppl can u put into groups n try to explain group by group, how many groups will u line up for that explanation. Now, times 20 different stories going around while u r explaining the first story, please calculate how many months n effort u need to put it to a stop ? Never. Let them be, if they are happy doing it, be nice my dear. Let them do it. Ur friends r those who spend time doing their own thing, not those who have nothing to do but gossip about all the friends in the group all the time. They’d better wished that they could turn into a newspaper, then there’ll be news all over them.

Last but not least, always remember this my dear, who gossips to you, will gossip of you. Need not say more, if u know how to login and set up an account in Friendster, i believe u r mature enough to understand this point. Never believe only what’s being told, listen to what’s been said too. Life of a friendship - Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will not forget you. Love me and I may be forced to love you … Every broken friendship has more than a way to mend , the question is, do u want to mend it ? I’ve mute few friends outta my life recently coz of the saddening reality that had surfaced right in front of my eye, what about you ?

You learn to speak by speaking, to study by studying, to run by running, to work by working; in just the same way, you learn to love by loving. Alright, this should be enough for now. Shout out to all my beautiful friends ‘ I LOVE YOU ’ If u don’t believe what i say, i’ll tell u this now, “Believe as I do, or I shall assassinate you”

To all the lovely ppl in this room , if the essence of my being has caused a smile to have appeared upon your face or a touch of joy within your heart. Then in living - I have made my mark. Make urs now …

Have a friend … Be a friend …

Love Always … Leng Yein