Leng Yein’s Blog

What do u think about the economy recession ? Will it be worst throughout d year ? Or does it not affect u at all ? Or did it change alot of things about u, on u ? For me, it did affect my business, but not me, not my life, im a secure person, i always have my plan B. But it did changed my perception on people, on things, on some matters, on life. It did changed some facts, and some facts changed me forever … The power of accurate observation is frequently called cynicism by those who don’t have it. So this is what i think, it’s personal … so it’s my story, my view…

Through my observation on what happened around me :

·9 out of 10 people become more self centred. They rather live a comfort life leaving others to suffer n bear their burdens.

I’ve seen really good people who suffered so much lately and they’ve turned evil. They ran away with cash - their parent’s money, their company’s money, their friend’s money, anything but their own hard earn money. And they left the other party to suffer for sins. Pity those who lived under the shadow they left behind. And those who suffer, swill definitely suffer longer than the sinner himself. Karma is like a donut, and u r not letting ur finger go. When u take d last bite, all u can taste is the bite on ur own finger. Beware … have a heart ~

·Money overshadowed one’s life and took away most of the things… their conceit, their trust, their dignity, their manhood, their reputation, their friendship, their smile, their happiness, their relationship, their perfection

At the edge of things we often see the true colour of one’s face right in front of our eyes, and their true behaviour distinguished the truth. And we shall easily see who’s who, which’s which, and what’s what. Differentiate n calm urself down. This is a good time that u should be composed and accept the disenchantment. Remember, if everyone was what we thought they are, we would’ve been god ~ It is hard to accept one whom we’d always kept close to our hearts, the trust, the respect, the gratitude and the love we have for them and it turned around so quickly. Keep it to urself, need not feel miserable. The second u know that u could handle the situation better, u r keeping up better than they do. Just let them be, be urself too ~

·More con man and scam company, constructing society downfalls n leap of crimes n cheats

Scams were all over the place. Reload machines, water refill machines, retailing scams, frauds, fast money schemes, Oh ~ u just cant finish writing the list down. When there is a threat, everyone started to do things with little contemplation and overlooked the risk that they are taking. But when things surfaced after awhile n matter got out of hand n financial got worst, most of the people will seek for even more dangerous path for fast money. We can only heard n see that much, we couldn’t help in this case but to give advice. But 9 outta 10 wouldn’t want our advise. Coz everybody only believes in themselves n nobody else. Everybody is the same when u r at the boundary of losing. So just watch, and try not to be like them. Read the newspapers, it should help and prevent u from falling into traps and scams, being one of the victim.

·Living in dreamland

When some of the hardworking people are working 2 jobs a day, some others are still sitting there doing nothing n hoping that cash would just fall and rain on them. They refuse to accept the reality, refuse to believe that their life is not going to be as good as it used to be. They still wanna have their the way it was before, spending and enjoying, taking things easy, afraid that people would look down on them once they see the changes in their lifestyle, on their spending. Living in their dream world, refused to accept the truth and move forward n set their feet on the ground, it is pitiful. But it is also a good time to reflect on urself, what u did, why did it happen, and what u should do and prevent it from happening again. Always plan ahead… always have a plan B. And better still, a plan C too.

·The rise of rivalry and condemnation

When one fall, one will automatically be a step above them. This is a time when a huge differences can easily be spotted among two different individuals. Comparison will take place, rivalry come to pass, once an adore can easily turn to abhorrence, envy and jealousy arise among the groups and everyone will start to fight/mouth fight against each other to prove that they are better. Gossips and backstabbing is common. A curser will curse even more just to show their displeasure and annoyance looking at those who are happy. U r either the one who had to save up, or the one who still go on spending~ But either one, no one cares. If ur life is about everything, just remember that their lives too. U r not that important. So save up ur time n do something meaningful other than wasting it on backstabbing others who does well. It only shows that u r going down faster than u think. A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control. Be wise when choosing which side u wanna be.

·Which is more important in d end of the day - Career or Happiness ?

The two most important requirements for major success are: first, being in the right place at the right time, and second, doing something about it. But i do believe that the very purpose of our life is to seek happiness. That is clear. Whether one believes in religion or not, whether one believes in this religion or that religion, we all are seeking something better in life. So, I think, the very motion of our life is towards happiness… When the time is tough, never let ur problems shadows the one that u love. When u lose them, u lost the most important thing that money can never even buy.

·Learn to play by the rules

There’s a case, I have a friend who were a model, so my friends were trying to be a good friend and kept forwarding her jobs but she held her nose so high n told my friend off ‘ Oh, didn’t u know? Im a full time model now, i don’t do cheap jobs and low class events.’ And outta no where, yesterday, she suddenly popped up again n called my friend asking her for any kind of payment job, as long as there is a job. This is a lesson to learn - Be nice to people on your way up because you will meet them on your way down.

·It’s so hard to play good people. So, lets just be below-average~

Some of us had lived our lives long enough to help alot of people. But most of them will never remember us when they’re outta trouble. And will only remember us when they got into trouble again. Lately, i got calls from long lost friends. Out of no where they called to borrow money, to meet me up, to have a chat, but it’s all n all about lending money. This is a good question, even if u have it, will u give it to them ? I used to have a habit of not knowing when to stop and not knowing when to say ‘NO’. But i soon learned that people is not treating us as friends, but they are using us as an ATM, worst – an idiot. I’d borrowed money, given my friends my bags, my stuffs, the brands, shelter, a ride, whatever u call it. They nvr greet u during festive seasons or on special dates, they never send u regards, they never calls u up on normal days just to see how u r doing right now, they never remember ur birthday, worst, they dun even know ur name ~ Giving out branded bags n clothes aren’t that bad, worst i still can treat it as though ppl helping me to clear my junk. But when u borrow money to someone n they don’t intend to return, it’s not about the money at all, it is about losing a friend forever. They avoid ur calls, they never return ur smses, they never wanna bump into u… Some were afraid that others would know about the money n they start to turn their back on u. They changed, and start treating u like an enemy. Saying heartbreaking things to ur friends so that they save their pride in front of the public. So hows that for playing good guy ? My Chinese sayings ‘ Hou Yan Nan Zou’ ah ~ So, my new policy is – NO CASH NO TALK in business, n DUN BORROW MONEY FROM ME in friendship. Aduh ~ What happen to the world nowadays ? sweat ~

·Save up. Don’t regret when it’s too late

You might be well off some time ago and u’d never thought that anything would happen and u had to use ur back up fund. But why if u’d used it all up n there’s nothing left to spend ? Never have the thinking that u always have to be better off than ur friends. When u see that they have 1 LV, u dig ur wallet and get 1 too. And when u see that they have 2, u went and buy 3. But when ur bank is empty n they’d bought the whole collection back, u have to sell ur 3 bags just to pay the taxi. No more Starhill n Pavilion for u, even worst, no more Sg.Wang. So why show off when the payoff is just for the price of ur pride ? Know ur limits. When ur friends have it n they flaunt it, it doesn’t mean that u have to have it too. Class n lifestyle is just a state of mind. Everyone has it no matter who they are. It’s just that the rate is different. U might not have a branded bag, but u might have something which a well off person would always longed to have. So the admiration goes both ways. It doesn’t have to always be a competition among ur friends, or ended up being compared, or living ur life all on dead objects and creating rivalry wherever u go. Secure ur future. That is what more important for you. If u wanna be the best, learn to maintain n balance d quality of ur life. Then u can really be the best lo ~

·Kiasu, Kiasi

You either get ur feet on the ground and work very hard ; or can still allow urself to keep on spending until the well dries up and then think about it later. U’ve watched enough movies. So it is time to reflect on urself. Sit down n take some time off for urself. Think deep of what u want, what u need, what u don’t want and set a target for urself n then go for it. It is new year. Let us have a chance to fix our fault and start it new again… Let us get it right…

·Have a heart

As for those who’re financially unshuddered, visit an orphanage today. Visit the old folk’s home. Visit those of u love. Donate. Adopt a pet or do something meaningful. Give some love, care and help. Have a happy heart ~ If u need the numbers of certain centre or outlet, tell me. I’ll be happy to forward it to you. May god bless u always …

Though alot of things are happening around the world right now, I am thankful that I’ve had my wonderful time, but this wasn’t it. I hope that u’ve found what u’re looking for in life. Especially at this point of time when the world is turning n changing at such high speed. Life is like a game of cards. The hand that is dealt represents determinism; and the way you play is absolutely free will. So play it well, and take full responsible on the end results. When u lose the game, it doesn’t mean that u’ll lose everything. U can lose the battle, but never lose the war.

Happy Chinese New Year and may ur year be filled with prosperity, luck, joy and ONG ONG ONG ah ~

Love Always … Leng Yein

Love is in the air ~ And it’s the Chinese New Year Time again ~ It’s the Ox year - My year ~ Moo Moo … How’s the first 15 days of ur Chinese New Year 2009 ? Did u stay put ? Did u managed to spent it with ur beloved family ? Did u do anything special this year ?

My CNY eve eve i throw myself whole day shopping and i manage to grab some stuff i wanted for my Skiing trip next month. Bought cute limited edition accessories, scarfs, boots, leather gloves, jackets, wool knitters, leggings and lots more stuff from few brands. Extremely love my new Marc Jacob’s hair clip, it’s so cute ~ and my pink colour gloves ~ Oh, can hardly find any colour like it ~ Love the 2 new fur jacket that i bought. Dont worry, i love animals so it is only pricey but not real fur coat. Leather jackets were cool so i bought 1, some thick scarfs n leather boots. Oh, it overshadows d bill i pay for the trip even before it started~ God knows how many cute stuff i can find when im there ~ Aiks ! Pity my princess coz she’s going to granny’s house so she cant continue shopping with me tomorrow. I missed her already … Duh ~ Bought two full sets of SKII and wrapped it up nicely for mummy n granny ~ And when i came outta the counter, Darn ~ i tot what happened when i saw ppl queuing for something ~ Glad i don’t need the help of Mr.ATM. The queue was like TTHHHHIIIIIIIIIISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS long !!!OMG ! Jammed all the way home n handed over some presents n gifts to my sister to pass it to my mom n grandparents. Poor princess, have to be a delivery person for me this time as jie wont be going bck to S.P lo =~~~( san fu sai nei lah ~ jie jie love u ~ Muah ~

My CNY eve was spent shopping again first half of d day. Too bad most of the shop are closing early. Hey, some brand’s summer collection is already IN ! Wee ~ i somply love d summer ~ So energetic n sexay ~ Wanted to grab a few RED items for new year but cant seemed to find the right design that i like. Hmm… i guess it happens everytime i wanted to buy things in a rush. But not too bad, though i cant get things in red, i did manage to grab some stuff before our gathering dinner starts. Had a scrumptious dinner with my boyfriend’s family and we laugh, we chat n stuff. Went for a TT session at my mamak watching football, Astro ‘kong’ oledi. Luckily i have two cards to swipe. I ended my day with a long sms to my hubby with wishes, gratitude, all n all ~ Thanks to Jess, she recommended me good phones ~ Now me n my bf can share the same emoticons in our new phone which looks like my baby dinosaur ~ haha ~ Next time i’ll sure buy phones from her again ~ As so, my CNY’s eve was - a day full with love, joy, happiness, laughter n satisfaction ~ Ah ~

ZzZZzzZzzZzz … sms kept coming in ~ Ring Ring ~ Love all my friends as they never failed to put a smile on my face. There were so many cute smses. I woke up each time one rang, as so, i didn’t really slept much. But im happy everytime each of them rang ~ Im thankful that they wasted 15 cent on me ~ My 1^st day of new year kicked start around 1.30pm coz that’s when i finally got myself ready. Aduh ! Went for a gathering @ hubby’s partner’s home @ Tropicana with children running around, mom’s were in a group chit chatting, children were playing while their dads were also chit chatting . Drove some of the kiddos around the club house in our Lambo. Children nowadays really knows how to appreciate luxury Eih~ They took some pictures n everyone is laughing, smiling n very happy. Hubby n his partners n friends were Black Jack’in, a thing i wouldn’t understand how to really play it even though i’s there all the time Duh ~ The gathering ended late evening n we’d got to go to prepare ourselves for tonight’s dinner with his family. Went chillin’ driving around d area n before heading home. Finito dinner quickly as i’s really hungry ~ Watched movie with mommy n hubby n little dinosaur baby, what a beautiful night. Final round was the Mah Jong session with hubby’s friends. Little dinosaur gave us luck and we manage to hit it off some fortune. We head to mamak for another TT session before ending our night ~

My 2^nd day was rather laid back. Chillin’ around, laughing n relaxing with my bf without make up and stuff… Went BSC La Bodega for some Tapas ~ Went groceries shopping @ Cold Storage n hubby drove me around to search for some diving equipments for our Sun Tanning ala Island trip this coming Monday. OooOooo … thinking of the white sandy beaches and the sea water really make my day ~ Too bad the shops were still closed so we’ll have to come bck again nxt week when we’re bck from our Kuantan trip ~ Hubby drove me around d highway vrooming our car to heat up it’s engine since we’ve not been driving baby Lambo for weeks. We managed to spare some mileages though~ Hubby did some squash session @ my home n he went swimming while im writing this blog beside d lap pool. Took a nap at home while my maid is cleaning d house n clean baby dinosaur ~ Yeah ~ Baby now clean clean again ~ Hubby drove me to his home coz mommy cook for us again , so sweet ~ So we’ll be having our dinner at hubby’s house. Mommy’s really good in cooking ~ She always gets my taste of food perfectly right ~Hubby n i planned our trip down to Kuantan, my hometown for my family’s gathering. Everything is well planned n time is sorted out perfectly~ Finito dinner and watched movie with mommy, hubby n baby dinosaur again ~ Mwuahh ~ what an easy day ~ Went massage again with baby n hubby… Hubby fetched me back to mamak n have TT session there. It was quite pack ~ Happy lo ~ Watched another movie @ mamak n hubby drove me home … my day ended with love… sealed with a kiss ~ And not forget to mention, my baby ate alotta stuff ~ yummy yummy mummy ~ My buddies know that i’ll be back tomorrow so all of them called n we started planning our evil project – doing nothing but laughing n laughing until the tears come out ~ Owwhhh ~ I miss em already ~

My 3^rd – 5^th day will be fully spotlight concentrated on my mum. Mum’s a workaholic as well so i guess it’s in d blood. Ah ~ With us around, all schedule will always be very tight, in a rush, but perfecto ~ We’ll always make d best outta everything ! On the 3^rd day of CNY, mummy will be arriving KL from Kedah with my princess today. At first, Princess is having exam so she’ll be staying put in KL while mum is tagging along with me n hubby back to Kuantan for our family’s new year reunion. But unfortunately i’ve got a call from Princess and she’s sick. Poor princess. I think she is too bored this new year. There’s nothing much to do when there’s too many people around. I should’ve gone and drive her around S.P and chill. Now i felt so bad n sad that my dearest dearest princess is sick. Princess is on d way to my house fetching mum n our Kuantan maid from Kedah to go back to Kuantan together… Im worrying and missing her at home… Went out with hubby to makan makan and went around buying some CNY stuff for mummy. Hubby sent me home to pack for the trip and he went home to pack too. As estimated, mummy n princess arrived late evening n princess parked her ride at my house and we sat in hubby’s car and head home, to Kuantan. Arrived Kuantan at night. Dropped mummy and princess at our home to get ready and me n hubby went n got ourselves ready for dinner too. We went for our dinner. I let princess choose what she wanna eat =~~~( Poor baby fall sick, jie so ‘sam thung’ =~~~( saying saying ~ Booked a table for ‘Lou Sang’ and ordered all d food we want for a perfect CNY reunion dinner. We were laughing and we’re so happy that night. Oh, it is so good to be home ~

My 4^th day of CNY - Woke up around afternoon the next day. Fetched mummy for breakfast n lunch, n everywhere she wanna go. Dun wanna let her drive, she’d been a working n driving enough already when im not around. Went cruising around d town n it felt so great. I haven’t been doing that for a long long time. Looking at those new malls, new places, new faces, new buildings, and so on, everything is just new new and new ~ Met my buddies. Oh ! God, i missed them so much. And food ! Ah ~ I love Kuantan’s food. I’d been living n eating here for 21 years. Oh i just love the food… Chilled out at my favourite hang out spot as usual everytime i come back – Kemaman Kopitiam. Went to a few more places much of my interest for food.. Gosh ~ I love Kuantan’s food ~Slurp ! Bumped into all my friends everywhere i go. It’s so good to see them again… Went and bought some food n flowers to pay my late dad a respect @ FLS Crematorium with mommy, princess n hubby. Fetch mummy back to her shop to settle some stuff and we stop at granny’s home. 4 families were there n we decided to have dinner together so we went n get ourselves ready n head for dinner. Meet some of them up at night as they called up for a leisure gathering ~ Haven’t been doing much of a gathering with my hometown’s friends besides my buddies for a long long time… It’s good to see u girls again *muah* Especially my buddies =-** After we finite our gathering, we head to ‘After Seven’ n chill out. Dj were our friend so we got all d songs we want, got ourselves the biggest VIP area n by less than 5 minutes it was packed with all my friends. Oh, it was a crazy night with muh girls ~ Too bad Ai Hwa is still in JB, so sad ~ Fetch em back n head back to hotel. Ah, slept very late again lo ~

It is the 5^th day of CNY and it is time to go so me n hubby n princess n baby woke up earlier than usual to repack our stuff and head home. Mum Mum with mummy before we hit d road. Oh, mummy ~ i missed u … i’ll come back more often this year i promise~ But pls prepare for our family month off trip ya~ Dont worry, i’ve bought enough stuff for u n granny so that u two wont catch cold. Will try to find more stuff for grandpa too =-** So me n hubby n princess n baby is back on d road again… smoking and singing n doing all sorts of silly things~ Reached KL around noon and we went shopping lo. Bought some new stuff for tomorrow’s Island trip ~ Got my new flippers n swimming towel n goggles n some stuff i call ‘puffer’. Hehehe ~ Went home n un[pack my Ktn trip’s dirty clothes n head Midvalley for shopping with princess again~ Bought some things and went mum mum with princess. Pack Pack Pack … pack for my baby little dinosaur too ~ Baby’s must-bring lists : Smarties checked ~ sunglasses checked ~ toy toy checked ~ clothes clothes checked ~ hat hat checked ~ baby’s fav towel checked ~ Lollipop checked~ Camera checked~ Hood checked~ Jacket checked~ Baby’s fav bag bag checked~ and so on … Changed baby’s clothes back to sporty style~ Yeah ~ Baby can do that hip hop dance again ~ Teng Teng Teng ~

My 6^th -10^th day. Woohoo ~ woke up very early as i have a flight to catch. Did some last checking on some must-bring stuffs and ready to go. Driver is here already so he called and i went down carrying all the sexay stuffs that i brought for the trip~ This will be my 1^st Sun Tanning trip for d year ~ Yeehaa ~ Never thought it could start so early. Most of the time booking starts on d third month. The second i’ve got call from my travel agent that it isgreen light to sail the island n that the bad weather is over n that hotels r taking in guests, count me in ! Yeaah ~ Sun Tan ! Well need not say more, bikinis n bikinis, sun tan oils, sun glasses, parios, flippers, ice creams with green apple, pizza by the beach, private cruising, chasing fishes, checking our corals, and of course, playing with my baby little dinosaur ~ It is always and will always be about him … Oh, baby ~ While im taking my time of world into my own sweet pace, princess had already stepped on her flight to London. She’ll be travelling much of Europe for one whole month too…To Paris for shopping, to Switzerland for skiing, to Milan designer brands hunting… and so on. Oh princess, jie will miss u for ur absence one whole month. We shall meet again a month later when we’re both back from our individual one month off trip~ Muah~ So there was the sun… the white sand… the marine… the sky and the food… Details for the trip need not say more, i’ll be posting the pictures up as soon as i get my hand back on the laptop. Pictures says a thousand words ~ and im always here to share … xoxo

11^th day of Chinese New Year ~ Alright, it’s the end of my 1^st sun tan trip now ~ Woke up earlier and pack our stuff n get ready to go. Took our breakfast in the suite. Buggy came to d door n well, i guess it’s time to say good bye ~ Baby say : ‘Bye bye phiishy phiishy ~ I will be back and bring u more breads.’ K baby, papa n mummy will bring u to more and more new places to play play with phiishy k ~ Muah ~ Flew back to the city feeling all tired n lazy. Went for a full body massage n spa before i end my day. Chucked all d sunny sunny beach stuff aside n Oh, i’ve just got back home n now i have to get myself ready for my ‘family/shopping/sightseeing/chilling out/food hunting/skiing’ trip again. Tired ! Will be travelling faraway to a few places n will only be back to Malaysia after a month. Going on vacation with my mom, my granny, n my grandpa. I’ve been neglecting the love for my family all these 6 years, throwing myself all into work. I never took d chance to take some time off for them, and so i wanted a family vacation month off ~~ But Princess will be in Europe skiing by the time im there. Oh dear Princess, jie will always be there with u. Even though we’re in different countries. Jie will miss u so so much lo =~~~~( Princess wont be joining us for this family trip and i missed her ~ Hmm … And i know i’ll miss hubby coz I didnt leave his side for this long for a long long time already… And the second i know im gonna do that, It felt so aggravate. It’s eating me up ! Hmm… =~~~~~~~~( But what to do, have to love my own family too lor ~ Will b missing you so so so much hubby… Poor baby, he’ll be missing papa so so so so much too =~~~~~~~~~(

12^th day of Chinese New Year – My maid came n washed up all d dirty clothes i brought back from my sun tanning trip. Cleaned the house n i got back my zen n peace ~Ah ! Freshness ~ Hmm … it’s time for me prepare the check list for my skiing trip. Went around town n did some last minute shopping to get more stuff i’d need when im in freezing temperature. Pack up my stuff and get ready to go again. I’ve decided to bring my extra large luggage as i know i’ll be buying alot there~ especially with my mummy n granny around. They have great taste in stuffs ~ Shopping ~ Gourmet-ing ~ and of course, Choosing where we wanna go and taking pictures~ Well, i’ll miss all of u when im gone. Will be sharing more pics with u once im back in d early of March ~ Hugs n Kisses ~

Well, i guess that’s how my whole Chinese New Year 2009 looks like. How about u ? I hope that u had great time out with ur family too =) Past mistakes or missteps are all water under the bridge… move on with a whole new life with more meanings and thoughts … leave a sweet memory behind those hearts who matters most to you …

Love Always … Leng Yein

Correct me if I’m wrong, but hasn’t the fine line between sanity and madness gotten finer ? There’s war going on at the other part of d world where ppl were dying everyday but there are more war going on everyday around our lives made by our friends and unknown people around us… It’s not true that life is one damn thing after another; it is one damn thing over and over…

Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some work you believe in with all your heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours. Heck what others say about u. Hey, at least no one is talking about them ? But they are talking about u ~ U r a subject, how cool can it be ? The paradox of an informed society is that over a period of time, it is susceptible to bias towards the same sources that project powerful information. Let them do it while u r too busy shopping ~ Some people just love to spend their free times talking about other people being a not-so-similar kinda FMs n RADIOs n Walkie Talkies~

Learn to laugh it over when u heard things that others say about you. Remember, nobody can hurt you without your permission. If u don’t like them, then don’t grant them one ! Through humour, you can soften some of the worst blows that life delivers. And once you find laughter, no matter how painful your situation might be, you can survive it.

I learn to find that not only women ticked backstabbing n gossiping, men does it too ~ Leave them , never degrades your argument. Better be the main role than being the audience who only heard what’s being told n never watched the actual ‘thingy ting ting’. Who knows, if ur role is great, u might be nominated ~ Haha ~

Judging a person after d first meeting is like assuming tat ur neighbour will only wear red, because tat is what you saw her in, the first time. Just imagine if everyone in this world started judging everyone else by their own standards. It would be like a blind person telling everyone else that the world is a dark place. Ppl change all the time. Be careful of who u chose to trust ~

Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one?’…and then u share, u help, u give, u listen, u laugh… Until one day, they take away their love from u… and they say everything about u differently… It is dangerous to play the sincere game without defence unless you are also stupid. Friendship is always born with love, but it does not always die with it. Moral indignation happens when there is some slight of jealousy in a halo. And when jealousy feeds upon suspicion, it turns into fury or it ends as soon as we pass from suspicion to certainty…and there comes hatred ~

Learn to accept that not everyone likes the things u do. There’s a saying - A successful person makes a habit of doing what the failing person doesn’t like to do. So stick to what u love, stick to the things u do ~ And let the others say what they wanna say. Besides, how many of them can actually do the things u do ? They can’t, that’s why they wanna talk about u. They can’t do the things u do n they can’t have the things u have… therefore they can only talk about u n hope that our lives will be miserable~ Blah ~ People who are capable wouldn’t have time gossiping about what others do, what they have, this n that, so n so. They are too busy doing their own things, taking their own sweet time while others r talking. Those who talk alot, in their mind, they know that words are powerful. But little did they know that only if words are put into actions ~ Duh ! But it is good coz when they put too much of it together, they made us - A highlighted story to tell… and by then we’ve made our mark ~How easy is that ~

For every beauty there is an eye somewhere to see it. For every truth there is an ear somewhere to hear it. For every love there is a heart somewhere to receive it. So no matter what others do… there’ll be a place for everyone to belong … u just have to find that right place ~ I’ve foundmine … and im thankful that they’re always there for me as i will be for them …

I believe the single most significant decision I can make on a day-to-day basis is my choice of attitude. It is more important than my past, my education, my bankroll, my successes or failures, fame or pain, what other people think of me or say about me, my circumstances, or my position. Attitude keeps me going or cripples my progress. It alone fuels my fire or assaults my hope. When my attitudes are right, there is no barrier too high, no valley too deep, no dream too extreme, no challenge too great for me. Hey, in the end of the day, who cares if u r in deep shit anyway ?

If you believe that feeling bad or worrying long enough will change a past or future event, then you are residing on another planet with a different reality system. And only minority stays in there. They never move. And when they did, they’re far away left behind. So, do u wanna be one of them ?

There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. I chose both and play around with it. I work very hard n believe that there’s no miracle given to me; and when i splurge, i believe that it is a miracle given. Ya, i guess that’s how i balance my life, hmm …

I’ve met ppl , strangers who came up to me being really friendly n nice… and they ended up being my friend. But i’d never came across any strangers who came up to me being really nasty n ended up being my enemy. Hmm…people who dislike me only talks behind me, never in front. Pity them that they don’t have the guts to. Just like one who never dare to look into the mirror just to see the reality that they have the courage to talk but not to face. Some took time to create fake accounts just to drop me some nasty comments, hmm… but they nvr surface ~ Well, thank u for ur time ~ I love u ~ Muah ~

To all the girls who’ve lived your life as happy as ever but unlucky enough to have friends who never stop trying to bring u down … It is better to have a permanent income than to ‘only be able’ to tell fascinating stories about people to others~ They are not qualified enough to be a story teller as they are classified ‘differently’. And they don’t have the blings, consequently they cant make the stories they tell into movies. Short say, they get no where. So, just let them be. Shallow people ~

Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will not forget you. Love me and I may be forced to love you … Hate me … and i Love U ~ Muah ~

Love Always … Leng Yein

A relationship, I think, is like a shark, you know? It has to constantly move forward or it dies. And I think what we got on our hands is a dead shark ~ Hah ~

Have you ever been in love n it doesn’t work out? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defences, you build up a whole suit of armour, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life…You give them a piece of you. They didn’t ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn’t your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like ‘maybe we should be just friends’ turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It’s a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. This is as much as love can get – a broken love.

Some say that there is fairy tale in life. But some say there is none. Well, i agree with both. A woman has got to love a bad man once or twice in her life, to be thankful for a good one. In the end of the day, it is up to us to paint the beautiful picture that we had in our dreams… When our man strayed too far out, it is us to get them back, or let them out. Never underestimate how great n powerful a woman can be. Just look at ur mom. She gave u a life ~

Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not. So each is inevitably disappointed. Men have hitherto treated women like birds which have strayed down to them from the heights; as something more delicate, more fragile, more savage, stranger, sweeter, soulful - but as something which has to be caged up so that it shall not fly away. It is because of insecureness that they have, the feeling of losing, the feeling of lost control, taking control…

Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep… wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you…. The one who turns to his friends and says, ‘that’s her.’ I found mine, and i wish that u too, found yours.

Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more. Someone asked me why women don’t gamble as much as men do, and I gave the commonsensical reply that we don’t have as much money. That was a true and incomplete answer. In fact, women’s total instinct for gambling is satisfied by marriage. By then, ‘WHY?’ is not the question. There are four questions of value in life… What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love. Agree? Not wealth , not Louis Vuitton, Chanel, Versace, nor Gucci, Prada… When the girls longed for branded n luxury lifestyle, even if they got it, and then u place the luxury beside the man they really love, they will go back to basic with their man. With no make-up, no explanation, just love…

All love shifts and changes. I don’t know if you can be wholeheartedly in love all the time. It is a curious thought, but it is only when you see people looking ridiculous that you realize just how much you love them. Funny how love turn around n make things happen just the way it is. Love has d power to change a fixed man. True love always makes a man better, no matter what woman inspires it. It always does. The reflection of each person lies 50% on how their partner’s value weight. So if u see someone behaving somewhat ‘B’, their partner may need to bear half of d blame. So sad ~

I think that between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship. At first i disagree, then when i happen to think it all over again, it is so true. It’s either they have the value we’re looking for, they have something we want or we adore, they can help us, they can calm us down n make us feel better, or they can be there for us when we needed someone around… we adore … and we need them around us …

Take Beyonce Knowles’s ‘If I Were A Boy’’s video clip for example - Why is it that men are permitted to be obsessed about their work (n other women), but women are only permitted to be obsessed about their man? Hmm … that’s a good clip which reflects on everyday’s love ~ I don’t know whether u’ll do that to ur man, but man or woman, we’re all d same. Seen n heard too much don’t u think. Well, we should learn to be thankful , appreciative, n cherish when we still have it. When love’s gone, we can only hope for a new one… the past are far bygone.

Men say they love independence in a woman, but they don’t waste a second demolishing it brick by brick. Especially those women who has their strong financial stability n career. The relationship is harder to handle. When love became a comparison, the feeling of challenged n imbalance between two will break the love u had. My first relationship lasted for years but didn’t work out because the man i love couldn’t handle the stress i’d caused. My career, my lifestyle. Though we were so in love, the second i got my feet into business n the society, it changes everything n tore us apart. We started to see a big difference in our income n stability. Our needs for different lifestyle, different things. My crave for lushness n pleasure overshadowed my love for him. I chose to have a lavish life than to stay by my man n not striving forward.

Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, a place that you and the other person can take. Chances are that people walked through the same path, only later to find that they ended up in a different direction. Opportunity knocks for every man, but you have to give a woman a ring. And after the ring is given, another door opens. More challenged, more committed, more problems … more love … Or maybe, does the ring fits the woman’s finger ? Or maybe, does ur ring has the C’s …

You can’t stop loving or wanting to love because when its right, it’s the best thing in the world. When you’re in a relationship and it’s good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete. Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable, u’re ready for love.

The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships. How u’ll live through life and how u’re going to end it rely on how much love u had n gave. People are dying each day, most of them were loved n remembered, some of them were not. If u know u r going to die today, what r u going to do? Work? Get some branded bags? Go on vacation alone? Hug a bear? Adopt a pet?

Don’t settle for a relationship that won’t let you be yourself. U will suffer later. And then only u realised that u’ve gotten a few years older… In real love you want the other person’s good. In romantic love you want the other person. Which one r u ? When we’re incomplete, we’re always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we’re still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on–series polygamy–until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfilment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.

If our relationship is like a rose, how long it lasts, no one will actually know. Love can erase all the awful past. And love can be yours, but you’ll only realise in the end… To feel that love, it sometimes makes you sigh… But to have it to leave, some of you would rather die. A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person… I hereby hope that you’ve found that special rose, and that you love and care for the one you’ve chose…

Which is right and what is wrong … I hope u have the answer deep down at the bottom of your heart … Well 2009 , i wish u love for eternity …

Love Always … Leng Yein