Leng Yein’s Blog

What do u think about the economy recession ? Will it be worst throughout d year ? Or does it not affect u at all ? Or did it change alot of things about u, on u ? For me, it did affect my business, but not me, not my life, im a secure person, i always have my plan B. But it did changed my perception on people, on things, on some matters, on life. It did changed some facts, and some facts changed me forever … The power of accurate observation is frequently called cynicism by those who don’t have it. So this is what i think, it’s personal … so it’s my story, my view…

Through my observation on what happened around me :

·9 out of 10 people become more self centred. They rather live a comfort life leaving others to suffer n bear their burdens.

I’ve seen really good people who suffered so much lately and they’ve turned evil. They ran away with cash - their parent’s money, their company’s money, their friend’s money, anything but their own hard earn money. And they left the other party to suffer for sins. Pity those who lived under the shadow they left behind. And those who suffer, swill definitely suffer longer than the sinner himself. Karma is like a donut, and u r not letting ur finger go. When u take d last bite, all u can taste is the bite on ur own finger. Beware … have a heart ~

·Money overshadowed one’s life and took away most of the things… their conceit, their trust, their dignity, their manhood, their reputation, their friendship, their smile, their happiness, their relationship, their perfection

At the edge of things we often see the true colour of one’s face right in front of our eyes, and their true behaviour distinguished the truth. And we shall easily see who’s who, which’s which, and what’s what. Differentiate n calm urself down. This is a good time that u should be composed and accept the disenchantment. Remember, if everyone was what we thought they are, we would’ve been god ~ It is hard to accept one whom we’d always kept close to our hearts, the trust, the respect, the gratitude and the love we have for them and it turned around so quickly. Keep it to urself, need not feel miserable. The second u know that u could handle the situation better, u r keeping up better than they do. Just let them be, be urself too ~

·More con man and scam company, constructing society downfalls n leap of crimes n cheats

Scams were all over the place. Reload machines, water refill machines, retailing scams, frauds, fast money schemes, Oh ~ u just cant finish writing the list down. When there is a threat, everyone started to do things with little contemplation and overlooked the risk that they are taking. But when things surfaced after awhile n matter got out of hand n financial got worst, most of the people will seek for even more dangerous path for fast money. We can only heard n see that much, we couldn’t help in this case but to give advice. But 9 outta 10 wouldn’t want our advise. Coz everybody only believes in themselves n nobody else. Everybody is the same when u r at the boundary of losing. So just watch, and try not to be like them. Read the newspapers, it should help and prevent u from falling into traps and scams, being one of the victim.

·Living in dreamland

When some of the hardworking people are working 2 jobs a day, some others are still sitting there doing nothing n hoping that cash would just fall and rain on them. They refuse to accept the reality, refuse to believe that their life is not going to be as good as it used to be. They still wanna have their the way it was before, spending and enjoying, taking things easy, afraid that people would look down on them once they see the changes in their lifestyle, on their spending. Living in their dream world, refused to accept the truth and move forward n set their feet on the ground, it is pitiful. But it is also a good time to reflect on urself, what u did, why did it happen, and what u should do and prevent it from happening again. Always plan ahead… always have a plan B. And better still, a plan C too.

·The rise of rivalry and condemnation

When one fall, one will automatically be a step above them. This is a time when a huge differences can easily be spotted among two different individuals. Comparison will take place, rivalry come to pass, once an adore can easily turn to abhorrence, envy and jealousy arise among the groups and everyone will start to fight/mouth fight against each other to prove that they are better. Gossips and backstabbing is common. A curser will curse even more just to show their displeasure and annoyance looking at those who are happy. U r either the one who had to save up, or the one who still go on spending~ But either one, no one cares. If ur life is about everything, just remember that their lives too. U r not that important. So save up ur time n do something meaningful other than wasting it on backstabbing others who does well. It only shows that u r going down faster than u think. A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control. Be wise when choosing which side u wanna be.

·Which is more important in d end of the day - Career or Happiness ?

The two most important requirements for major success are: first, being in the right place at the right time, and second, doing something about it. But i do believe that the very purpose of our life is to seek happiness. That is clear. Whether one believes in religion or not, whether one believes in this religion or that religion, we all are seeking something better in life. So, I think, the very motion of our life is towards happiness… When the time is tough, never let ur problems shadows the one that u love. When u lose them, u lost the most important thing that money can never even buy.

·Learn to play by the rules

There’s a case, I have a friend who were a model, so my friends were trying to be a good friend and kept forwarding her jobs but she held her nose so high n told my friend off ‘ Oh, didn’t u know? Im a full time model now, i don’t do cheap jobs and low class events.’ And outta no where, yesterday, she suddenly popped up again n called my friend asking her for any kind of payment job, as long as there is a job. This is a lesson to learn - Be nice to people on your way up because you will meet them on your way down.

·It’s so hard to play good people. So, lets just be below-average~

Some of us had lived our lives long enough to help alot of people. But most of them will never remember us when they’re outta trouble. And will only remember us when they got into trouble again. Lately, i got calls from long lost friends. Out of no where they called to borrow money, to meet me up, to have a chat, but it’s all n all about lending money. This is a good question, even if u have it, will u give it to them ? I used to have a habit of not knowing when to stop and not knowing when to say ‘NO’. But i soon learned that people is not treating us as friends, but they are using us as an ATM, worst – an idiot. I’d borrowed money, given my friends my bags, my stuffs, the brands, shelter, a ride, whatever u call it. They nvr greet u during festive seasons or on special dates, they never send u regards, they never calls u up on normal days just to see how u r doing right now, they never remember ur birthday, worst, they dun even know ur name ~ Giving out branded bags n clothes aren’t that bad, worst i still can treat it as though ppl helping me to clear my junk. But when u borrow money to someone n they don’t intend to return, it’s not about the money at all, it is about losing a friend forever. They avoid ur calls, they never return ur smses, they never wanna bump into u… Some were afraid that others would know about the money n they start to turn their back on u. They changed, and start treating u like an enemy. Saying heartbreaking things to ur friends so that they save their pride in front of the public. So hows that for playing good guy ? My Chinese sayings ‘ Hou Yan Nan Zou’ ah ~ So, my new policy is – NO CASH NO TALK in business, n DUN BORROW MONEY FROM ME in friendship. Aduh ~ What happen to the world nowadays ? sweat ~

·Save up. Don’t regret when it’s too late

You might be well off some time ago and u’d never thought that anything would happen and u had to use ur back up fund. But why if u’d used it all up n there’s nothing left to spend ? Never have the thinking that u always have to be better off than ur friends. When u see that they have 1 LV, u dig ur wallet and get 1 too. And when u see that they have 2, u went and buy 3. But when ur bank is empty n they’d bought the whole collection back, u have to sell ur 3 bags just to pay the taxi. No more Starhill n Pavilion for u, even worst, no more Sg.Wang. So why show off when the payoff is just for the price of ur pride ? Know ur limits. When ur friends have it n they flaunt it, it doesn’t mean that u have to have it too. Class n lifestyle is just a state of mind. Everyone has it no matter who they are. It’s just that the rate is different. U might not have a branded bag, but u might have something which a well off person would always longed to have. So the admiration goes both ways. It doesn’t have to always be a competition among ur friends, or ended up being compared, or living ur life all on dead objects and creating rivalry wherever u go. Secure ur future. That is what more important for you. If u wanna be the best, learn to maintain n balance d quality of ur life. Then u can really be the best lo ~

·Kiasu, Kiasi

You either get ur feet on the ground and work very hard ; or can still allow urself to keep on spending until the well dries up and then think about it later. U’ve watched enough movies. So it is time to reflect on urself. Sit down n take some time off for urself. Think deep of what u want, what u need, what u don’t want and set a target for urself n then go for it. It is new year. Let us have a chance to fix our fault and start it new again… Let us get it right…

·Have a heart

As for those who’re financially unshuddered, visit an orphanage today. Visit the old folk’s home. Visit those of u love. Donate. Adopt a pet or do something meaningful. Give some love, care and help. Have a happy heart ~ If u need the numbers of certain centre or outlet, tell me. I’ll be happy to forward it to you. May god bless u always …

Though alot of things are happening around the world right now, I am thankful that I’ve had my wonderful time, but this wasn’t it. I hope that u’ve found what u’re looking for in life. Especially at this point of time when the world is turning n changing at such high speed. Life is like a game of cards. The hand that is dealt represents determinism; and the way you play is absolutely free will. So play it well, and take full responsible on the end results. When u lose the game, it doesn’t mean that u’ll lose everything. U can lose the battle, but never lose the war.

Happy Chinese New Year and may ur year be filled with prosperity, luck, joy and ONG ONG ONG ah ~

Love Always … Leng Yein

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