They say we do it, but actually Men does it too … part 40
Correct me if I’m wrong, but hasn’t the fine line between sanity and madness gotten finer ? There’s war going on at the other part of d world where ppl were dying everyday but there are more war going on everyday around our lives made by our friends and unknown people around us… It’s not true that life is one damn thing after another; it is one damn thing over and over…
Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some work you believe in with all your heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours. Heck what others say about u. Hey, at least no one is talking about them ? But they are talking about u ~ U r a subject, how cool can it be ? The paradox of an informed society is that over a period of time, it is susceptible to bias towards the same sources that project powerful information. Let them do it while u r too busy shopping ~ Some people just love to spend their free times talking about other people being a not-so-similar kinda FMs n RADIOs n Walkie Talkies~
Learn to laugh it over when u heard things that others say about you. Remember, nobody can hurt you without your permission. If u don’t like them, then don’t grant them one ! Through humour, you can soften some of the worst blows that life delivers. And once you find laughter, no matter how painful your situation might be, you can survive it.
I learn to find that not only women ticked backstabbing n gossiping, men does it too ~ Leave them , never degrades your argument. Better be the main role than being the audience who only heard what’s being told n never watched the actual ‘thingy ting ting’. Who knows, if ur role is great, u might be nominated ~ Haha ~
Judging a person after d first meeting is like assuming tat ur neighbour will only wear red, because tat is what you saw her in, the first time. Just imagine if everyone in this world started judging everyone else by their own standards. It would be like a blind person telling everyone else that the world is a dark place. Ppl change all the time. Be careful of who u chose to trust ~
Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one?’…and then u share, u help, u give, u listen, u laugh… Until one day, they take away their love from u… and they say everything about u differently… It is dangerous to play the sincere game without defence unless you are also stupid. Friendship is always born with love, but it does not always die with it. Moral indignation happens when there is some slight of jealousy in a halo. And when jealousy feeds upon suspicion, it turns into fury or it ends as soon as we pass from suspicion to certainty…and there comes hatred ~
Learn to accept that not everyone likes the things u do. There’s a saying - A successful person makes a habit of doing what the failing person doesn’t like to do. So stick to what u love, stick to the things u do ~ And let the others say what they wanna say. Besides, how many of them can actually do the things u do ? They can’t, that’s why they wanna talk about u. They can’t do the things u do n they can’t have the things u have… therefore they can only talk about u n hope that our lives will be miserable~ Blah ~ People who are capable wouldn’t have time gossiping about what others do, what they have, this n that, so n so. They are too busy doing their own things, taking their own sweet time while others r talking. Those who talk alot, in their mind, they know that words are powerful. But little did they know that only if words are put into actions ~ Duh ! But it is good coz when they put too much of it together, they made us - A highlighted story to tell… and by then we’ve made our mark ~How easy is that ~
For every beauty there is an eye somewhere to see it. For every truth there is an ear somewhere to hear it. For every love there is a heart somewhere to receive it. So no matter what others do… there’ll be a place for everyone to belong … u just have to find that right place ~ I’ve foundmine … and im thankful that they’re always there for me as i will be for them …
I believe the single most significant decision I can make on a day-to-day basis is my choice of attitude. It is more important than my past, my education, my bankroll, my successes or failures, fame or pain, what other people think of me or say about me, my circumstances, or my position. Attitude keeps me going or cripples my progress. It alone fuels my fire or assaults my hope. When my attitudes are right, there is no barrier too high, no valley too deep, no dream too extreme, no challenge too great for me. Hey, in the end of the day, who cares if u r in deep shit anyway ?
If you believe that feeling bad or worrying long enough will change a past or future event, then you are residing on another planet with a different reality system. And only minority stays in there. They never move. And when they did, they’re far away left behind. So, do u wanna be one of them ?
There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. I chose both and play around with it. I work very hard n believe that there’s no miracle given to me; and when i splurge, i believe that it is a miracle given. Ya, i guess that’s how i balance my life, hmm …
I’ve met ppl , strangers who came up to me being really friendly n nice… and they ended up being my friend. But i’d never came across any strangers who came up to me being really nasty n ended up being my enemy. Hmm…people who dislike me only talks behind me, never in front. Pity them that they don’t have the guts to. Just like one who never dare to look into the mirror just to see the reality that they have the courage to talk but not to face. Some took time to create fake accounts just to drop me some nasty comments, hmm… but they nvr surface ~ Well, thank u for ur time ~ I love u ~ Muah ~
To all the girls who’ve lived your life as happy as ever but unlucky enough to have friends who never stop trying to bring u down … It is better to have a permanent income than to ‘only be able’ to tell fascinating stories about people to others~ They are not qualified enough to be a story teller as they are classified ‘differently’. And they don’t have the blings, consequently they cant make the stories they tell into movies. Short say, they get no where. So, just let them be. Shallow people ~
Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will not forget you. Love me and I may be forced to love you … Hate me … and i Love U ~ Muah ~
Love Always … Leng Yein
February 4th, 2009 at 7:33 am
hi,
Interesting enuff to have ur view about things. Agreed that men also do talk about other ppl at their back, of coz mostly the bad things, but sometimes a good things also. but i think we “men” are not at the par with the woman at it.. even tho there are some excellent speaker at it, most of them just lacking skills and efford to capture the interest of the listener.
I myself most of the time lost interest and my mind wondered elsewhere when listening to even a woman speaker talking about the subject. and most of the time, will become an opposition to counter the speaker, which will make it more interesting discussion. The prob with woman tho is that they cant take counter points very well, which is bad for men especially when the woman is his gf and be labeled as unsupportive.. haiz.. (personal experience)
I think the prob with ppl is “self pride” which is naturally exist in almost everyone, its not a totally bad things to a certain extend, but being humble is a wiser choice. And so i have becomes so many times as a middle man between 2 parties who dont talk to each other but like to talk about each other. How the time has change from 3 way talk to 2 x 2 talk. and if heat up high enuff it’s becomes 2 way or even no way. I’m not sure wheather u understand wat i’m talking about.. forgive me for that.. i remain as a bad peacemaker(not that i choose to be).
Back to the topic, i sense that u have much dislike for ppl who talk bad about u behind ur back and i bet they wont like it either if u talk bad about them behind their back even anonymously.
Regards,
Sham.
February 6th, 2009 at 10:51 am
hihi..
glad to meet you..
D ppl who talk bad about me behind my back, they are d rubbish in my eyes..
when you see d rubbish, what should you do? just throw!
haha!! I think you understand what I mean..
Leng Yein, take care ya! Hope you’ve a happinese live 4ever.. Love you
I’m Alex Tong
March 10th, 2009 at 5:09 am
back again..most probably they had said wat i wanted to..soo..ntg else ler..take care and God bless..
May 31st, 2009 at 9:13 am
Hey Leng Yein,
Really cool topic you brought up. I am in consensus to what your trying to delineate and express, with all the emotional stress and setbacks your facing in your life. what you have to understand is that there is a difference, if not a sublte contrast between living your life and saying you do.
From the way i see it, your ranting about what could have, shoulkd have and would have been. Life is never fair and i have fought raging rivers of self-degradation and pity trying to live with that. it is not easy going through what your facing now, but do not fall into the same slippery slope argument or ideology (aptly termed) like what all young, immatured individuals do all the time.
Live your life like you want it to be and no one will fault you for that, but do not let your emotional downpour dampen every proper perspective you once had to men and their attitude. Hear yourself speak, you mentioned so many airy-fairy beliefs and changes in society on humanism and personalites, honestly, do you ever think it will occur? All of us are caught up in our fancy little dream world, and you are no exception, you have your thoughts and say only in YOUR life, do not expect others to see the way you do, much less love you for everything you are.
I agree that once in a while we fall, but after the pain and shock, we get back up and move on. do what you keep doing now, and however intellectual you may try to portray yourself will end up nothing but in vain.
Talk is ultimately still talk, everyone can do that, and ranting is even easier given the mental acumen one is in is one of Angst and pain. i am not being denigrating or mollifying any of your ideas, i just thought you should know, i felt the same way before.
it came to me that in life, talk is talk and nothing more than empty, verbal recounts and hoity-toity collections of what could have, should have and would have. move on and stop trying to sound impressive because all the crap in the world did not give you or me the success we have today. i run a business, going for a double degree, play many sports and scrabble for my passion, and like you, it did not come easy. You, like me, of all people, should know that!
Have fun, have faith and live strong!
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